{"id":3369,"date":"2023-06-05T05:10:01","date_gmt":"2023-06-04T23:40:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/asyouarelifecoaching.com\/?p=3369"},"modified":"2023-06-05T05:19:25","modified_gmt":"2023-06-04T23:49:25","slug":"beyond-bargaining","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asyouarelifecoaching.com\/beyond-bargaining\/","title":{"rendered":"Beyond Bargaining: Unpacking the Stuck Phase in Grief’s Maze"},"content":{"rendered":"
In her internationally best-selling book “On Death and Dying,” Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross discusses her 5 stages of grieving. Every one of us at some point in our lives has experienced a loss. Whether it is a great loss like that of a loved one, or a small loss, like a ten-dollar bill. With each loss, we all go through these 5 stages of grieving. The stages can be repeated, they may take hours, days, months, years to transition through, but we all experience the stages at some point after our loss.<\/p>\n
I began to think how giving up alcohol is a form of loss. For a long time, we have relied on alcohol to soothe us, to help us loosen up before a social event, to alleviate stress, to fill bored time. After so long, we have become reliant on alcohol. You could call it your friend. You rely on alcohol because it helps you cope with stress, financial issues, job loss, marital problems. Anytime someone decides to give up drinking, the 5 stages of grieving come into play. What I found most interesting, though, is the 3rd stage can be the longest and hardest. First, let’s cover what all of the stages are, and what they can look like when you choose sobriety.<\/p>\n
I bring up the 5 stages of grief because I have seen so many women spend more time than necessary in stage 3. I have had clients who wouldn’t admit to their spouse that they were seeking help with their drinking. I’ve known women who had gone a couple of weeks without a drink and thought just one glass of wine would be ok. There are influencers on social media doling out tips on how to try to moderate drinking with tactics like drink a water in between alcohol. While I understand they are trying to slowly introduce some to a healthier lifestyle, this article isn’t for them. This article is for the woman who knows she can’t have just 1. The bargaining is a trick the ego is playing on you to keep you ‘safe’. I air quote safe, because we all know it’s not truly safe. It just means we know what to expect when we drink and we don’t know what to expect when we are sober. The ego likes to know what’s going to happen and thus it hates change.<\/p>\n
If you have been questioning your relationship to alcohol and have found yourself in the bargaining phase longer than you would like, below are some journal prompts to help you proceed to the acceptance stage.<\/p>\n
5 Stages of Grief In her internationally best-selling book “On Death and Dying,” Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross discusses her 5 stages of grieving. Every one of us at some point in our lives has experienced a loss. Whether it is a great loss like that of a loved one, or a small loss, like a ten-dollar bill. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3370,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":"","_wordproof_timestamp":true},"categories":[1],"tags":[36],"yoast_head":"\n